The Flow
by Joan Marques
Published on this site: January 5th, 2006 - See
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We are born, raised, and become absorbed with our desires.
And we follow our desires. With that, we hurt our parents – disobey their
advises – for we know it all so well. After all, our
life is our life, and we shall live it as we choose.
Then we get confronted with our own progenies. We raise them,
and they become absorbed with their desires. And they follow their
desires. And with that, they hurt us – disobey our advises – for they
know it all so well. After all, their life is their life,
and they shall live it as they choose.
This is the flow we so often refuse to acknowledge: The things
we once did to others in some sort, return to be done to us
at a later stage. And we fail to understand. We fail to lay
the connection between then and now. We fall short, whether
deliberately or unknowingly, in seeing the connection; in
recognizing the lesson captured in all these hardships we
encounter. For it requires thinking and reflecting, and it
requires honesty and discretion to accept the things that
are done to us as being completely deserved.
Indeed, some of the experiences we face are practically impossible
to trace back to past misbehaviors. But perhaps those experiences are
just happening in reversed order. Perhaps those acts serve as pay offs or
lessons for future encounters, in order to prepare us for
stages that are still to be set.
Perhaps being put down at present without finding any justification
in past behavior only means that an elevation of some sort is forthcoming
on our path. For the flow is indisputable. The cause and effect
pattern is ubiquitous as it has always been and as it will
always be: in all its simplicity.
And, finally: There is no need to despise ourselves for past
misbehaviors, for everything was appropriate at the time it
occurred. The best we can do is to learn from all our life
stages, and savor them as jewels granted to us – each
fashionable in its own time.
Dr. Joan Marques
4 January 2006
Joan Marques emigrated from Suriname, South America,
to California, U.S., in 1998. She holds a doctorate in Organizational Leadership,
a Master's in Business Administration, and is currently a
university instructor in Business and Management in Burbank,
California. Look for her books "Empowe the Leader in
You" and "The Global Village" in bookstores
online or on her website: http://www.joanmarques.com
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